Philly – Hahaha! Thanks for encouraging my bad habits. : )

moody bitch – Thanks for the excellent words of wisdom and for calling me on my shit. You’re absolutely right. I like the idea of “good chick karma” and will have to start building some up… god knows I need it!

fionna – Mmmm, I love the idea of something “deliciously scandalous!” Yes, the NMP certainly carries just as much blame for this as I do, but even so, it should never have happened. I think sometimes I create a little drama in my life just for the hell of it, and that is such a bad habit. I need a 12-step program.

Honey – You always have such grounded advice – thank you. I agree that it’s nearly impossible to break up a solid, happy relationship. For the NMP’s sake, I do hope it works out with his girl, but who knows. Very good point about convincing myself that this is acceptable realtionship behavior – this is something I need to think about… or rather, something that I need to remind myself not to do regardless of how lonely I may get.

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While I do not think that everything can be placed on NMP, I do think it’s impossible to break up a happy relationship where the people are compatible and everything’s working. So my guess is that the NMP’s relationship isn’t going to be “the one.” That being said, though, I do think that this has a couple of negative consequences for you –

the first being the guilt that you have already mentioned,

the second being the fact that if you’re pursuing something with someone who’s unavailable you’re just postponing the time when you can find someone who is, and

the third and perhaps most disturbing thing being that you’re convincing yourself, consciously or subconsciously, that this is normal, acceptable relationship behavior, and the next person you choose to date is likely to be someone who also thinks that and is therefore likely to do it (or you will).

I don’t think you necessarily need to worry yourself to pieces over the first two – it’s the third that is a concern for me.

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Yeah, I have my moments of guilt, but I don’t regret it. I chalk it up to a moment of selfishness, a learning experience, and a deliciously scandalous chapter in an otherwise “good girl” story that I can remember when I’m old and in a rocking chair on my front porch.

Whatever you wind up thinking, remember that he made his choices, too, and you’re not alone in it.

“I would also be devastated if a serious boyfriend did what the NMP did the other night, which is why I felt so horribly guilty afterward.”

And then again right here:

“Which makes me think… did I just mess with someone’s serious boyfriend? I think I did, and honestly, that scares the shit out of me.”

You already know this was not the right thing to do, and you know how it would make you feel if it were done to you – so, don’t be the girl who does it to someone else!

There are more than enough men in the world to go around, and so there is just no reason whatsoever to borrow one who belongs to another woman already (even if it’s just for some titillating talk). It’s all about storing up “Good Chick Karma” for your own future relationship(s).

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Enjoy the moment you had, now had you actually said come over now or went to him then yes this type of introspect makes sense.