Comments on: Crossing the line

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 03:31:15 +0000

Lance – I think the deep-rooted desire for “the hunt” is just as strong in women. Maybe it has something to do with the grass always being greener, as they say. Would definitely be interested in reading your post if you decide to write one.

Jonsi – Hahaha, has my poor little blog really become that boring? Sorry, my dear. Such is life. And yes, I was definitely hungry for a little solo action, but I was too tired from work to do anything about it. Pathetic, I know!

Honey – Your comment has had me thinking all day – I’m really glad you brought this up. I would also be devastated if a serious boyfriend did what the NMP did the other night, which is why I felt so horribly guilty afterward. I knew exactly what I was doing, and I did it anyway. I felt even worse for liking it. It’s a strange, scary situation. More on this in my next post…

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By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:22:28 +0000

Hm. I do think that fantasizing about someone outside of your partner (if you have one) is normal, and obviously DD you're single so fantasizing about NMP is okay, I would be DEVASTATED if my boyfriend had a conversation with a previous partner like the one you describe. It's the emotional cheating that so many women say is worse than the physical, though IMO they're pretty equal. Honey’s last blog post..My Boyfriend’s Mother

By: Jonsi

Jonsi — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 07:40:25 +0000

I knew you'd have entertaining things to write about soon. So after you were done talking to him, were you hungry enough to go on a clam bake for one? Jonsi’s last blog post..First 100 Days

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 06:10:52 +0000

DD, interesting encounter. I've been meaning to write a post about this very subject, that is, the need in men for "the hunt" even though they are in perfectly healthy relationships that include good sex. And, not fantasizing about your GF. My take is that men have a deep seated urge to have random hookups; it's part of our biological imperative. The emotions and feelings associated with that can be completely exclusive of the feelings connected with your LTR partner. I think in a perfect world without social judgment and health risk, we'd be able to have LTR's and occasionally hookup with chicks at the same time. Lance’s last blog post..Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 02:09:08 +0000

Claire – I totally know what you mean about the excitement of the “dirty little secret,” and that’s exactly what’s so hot about the NMP. And DAMN, that conversation on Sunday night was HOT! I’m still drooling over it two whole days later.

Shirtless Guy – Hahaha, I know, right? The same thing always happens with this guy, so it’s really not a surprise at all. I just wish I could act on it… I miss that gorgeous cock!

fionna – Yes, all bets are off if we’re ever in the same room again. But for now, I’ll have to keep my distance and settle for lust from afar. I’m glad I’m not the only one who enjoys how scandalous this all is… it’s just SO HOT. Love it.

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By: fionna

fionna — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 00:09:58 +0000

Ohhhh, I’ve so been there and know the line of which you speak…and have left it far, far behind me.

I agree, it can be lots of fun. The scandelousness of it is very seductive. And the distance will keep that good tension between the two of you. But if you wind up hanging out in person, well, then all bets will be off

By: Shirtless Guy

Shirtless Guy — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:09:42 +0000

Boy did I call this happening. Well I did not call you playing back, but I totally knew he would want you again.

By: Claire

Claire — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 09:45:54 +0000

“I felt guilty for absolutely loving the fact that he jerks off thinking about me instead of his girl.”

That thought makes me hot, and it’s not even me he’s thinking about!

I think as long as you don’t physically cross that line (i.e. have naked, naughty fun) then it’s all (well mostly) innocent. But hell I’d love to read that post if you ever did hook up The whole “this is naughty and secretive” dealo really gets me off.

(Not that I’m condoning cheating… I dated a guy who i didn’t tell anyone about, and that whole “he’s my dirty little secret” thing drove me wild” – I still think about him when I masturbate)