You’ve got my email address…

Virgin – Wait, I’m supposed to be *avoiding* cocktails? That doesn’t sound right… : ) Anyway, I really don’t *think* I’m giving off a clingy-husband-shopping vibe with these guys, but it’s certainly how my brain operates internally. I really hope that I’m keeping it below the surface!

Hammer – Thanks for the link. I have absolutely no doubt that dating/relationships are chemically addictive… and I admit that I’m addicted. Is there a 12-step program for people like me? I need to detox. : )

Holly – Your situation is ideal, and I’d love to set up something like that, but I don’t think I could do it! I mean, how do you not smooch that guy and then jump all over him??? Best of luck when your hiatus is over… I want the details!

Rachelle – I’ve also opted-out of plans in the hopes that maybe, just *maybe*, some idiot guy would call me and sweep me off my feet. Looking back, this behavior was so unhealthy for me. Then again, I’m not a fan of just waiting around, living life, without making any effort to find someone. I’ve done it and always wind up busy but alone!

Honey – Yeah, I definitely need a break from online dating, and I do go out to bars with my girls… but I don’t think a bar is a good place to meet someone. Maybe I should just forget about guys for a while and stock up on wine and Sex and the City DVDs. : )

Philly – Sorry about the small print! I made the image bigger, and you can click on it to get the full-screen version. Thanks for the compliments, and I agree that staring at my phone is a *complete* waste of time, especially because by the time I get to that point, the guy has long since disappeared. Whatever!

Lance – Why yes, I *do* need to get laid, thank you very much. Although I’ve been trying to find a nice guy that I could actually date *and* fuck, I seem to be striking out on the dating front. I really, really want to call my old fuck-buddies, but they need a full STD-workup before I’ll ever touch them again. How do I find a new FB who is not a sleazebag/douchebag and not infected??? Until then, I’ll still be dreaming about some hot Lance monkey sex. : )

Don’t listen to Holly, it’s totally lame that her guy is blue balled and waiting.

Also, I really want to nail you.

Lance’s last blog post..How Much Do You Care That Spitzer Nailed a Hooker and Can He Save Our Economy?

Oh, and another thing,,,,,,I couldn’t read your chart, my old eyes aren’t what they used to be.

Have a great weekend!!!

Philly’s last blog post..Here’s the poop…..

It’s tough…I definitely did that for many years. Just don’t do what I did, which is follow that up with many MORE years of being the jerky, commitment-phobic one who wouldn’t call the guys back. Neither type of obsession is one to be proud of.

Honey’s last blog post..Moving Closer: Anger, Recession, and Relationships

I like to think of myself as a strong, independent chick who doesn’t need a guy to complete me. But something just takes over. So NO, I do not think you are crazy.

Maybe if you stop looking and just get back to being you and living your life and have no expectations, you may just meet that special someone when you least expect it.

Maybe I could make a suggestion? When I decided to go on the hiatus I detailed in the Sex is a Distraction post, part of it was because I realized I couldn’t get involved physically without my head getting all screwed up. I mean, let’s face – good sex f*cks with your head.

So, when I met a guy two months ago who seemed really, really interesting, I wondered how I was going to get around the whole I’m-not-dating thing. Amazingly, he was totally willing to get to know me as a friend first. The more we got to know each other, the more our mutual attraction grew – and the more I knew he was actually worthwhile & interested. I mean, he freaking hung out with me (exclusively, no other dates) without the hopes of getting any for quite a while.

My hiatus ends in 2 weeks, but we’ve already smooched a few times. We both agree that it’s awesome to know that what we’re beginning to feel for each other is real, and not the result of post-coital chemicals & neurotransmitters.

I’m not saying you have to take it to the degree I have, but perhaps there’s some benefit in finding out if a guy is worth jumping on that bell curve for first.

Holly Hoffman’s last blog post..Why I’m starting another blog

Hammer’s last blog post..LR – 15 Minute Bathroom Pull

Anyway, I’m not going to give you the “you have to change your outlook because you’re scaring off guys with this mentality” speech because that’s not always true. People wear masks in public and are far more complex on the inside than what is truly conveyed on the outside. And a lot of times, it really is a problem with the other person and leads us to wrongful conclusions.

While it might come across to some as doom and gloomful writing, I see it as getting things off your chest. Important thing is to keep busy and not ignore the activities that make you happy, and after a while life will be a-okay again.

So yeah, trust your gut (to a degree…we all do get busy, but not TOO busy). And try to avoid too many cocktails

But don’t forget that the chart goes both ways. Sometimes we guys get too hung up on a girl who won’t return our calls or give us the time of day.