Comments on: I think I need help

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 01:20:25 +0000

Everyone – I really can’t thank you enough for all the good wishes and kind words both above and in my inbox. You have no idea how much you cheered me up and reminded me that there are so many great things in life worth being excited about, and sometimes I just have to ride out these slumps to realize that again.

You know, I was very, very hesitant to publish this post because I don’t think I’ve ever been so raw on the blog before. I usually try to keep things at least mildly entertaining, even when I’m complaining. I worried that I would alienate readers with my depressing semi-suicidal mood and very un-DD-like gloominess.

But you know what? I think this was the one of the most DD-like posts I’ve written, and it makes me happy to know that I got such a positive response to some really raw, unedited, unfiltered feelings. I’ll tell ya, I was in a really, really scary mood that night, and I’m glad I came out of it without any scarring – emotional or physical. I guess we all go through moods like that, and it was very comforting to know that I wasn’t alone.

Thank you, from my heart to yours. You guys really mean a lot to me, even though we’re all just messages in cyberspace. The power of the blogosphere is alive and well. : )

By: Simon

Simon — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 17:59:42 +0000

Here's what I suggest: think about how out of this world amazing it is that even FIVE years ago there's basically no way you would have gotten this kind of support online. I hear people bad mouthing blogging all the time because it's a waste of time. Smile Double D, you live in the best era ever!!! Just imagine: some woman back in the day (whenever that may have been) might have chosen a radically different one than the one that you've chosen here today. I agree with The Virgin, lay it all out on the table...... Simon’s last blog post..Handjobs by Cole

By: Jonsi

Jonsi — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:47:22 +0000

I’d also check your health insurance coverage. Many plans cover things such as weekly or biweekly massage with low or no copays. Non-sexual touch is psychologically therapeutic too. And many employers don’t mention that you do have those benefits!

By: KT

KT — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:29:41 +0000

If your cell phone is not ringing, then when don't you call someone to talk it out? When I was single I filled my days with sports leagues and happy hours with friends so that I didn't have to go back to my apartment after work and get sad. It's spring- time to get outside! KT’s last blog post..Observations

By: Cole

Cole — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 23:31:58 +0000

DD, besides this epic vacation that Honey and Lance have suggested, I think you should do some things that always make you happy no matter what. If that doesn’t work, we do live in the same city

Cole’s last blog post..Handjobs by Cole

By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:04:11 +0000

Dude, DD, I was just about to recommend that you go to Vegas with me, but Lance beat me to it! Memorial weekend. Come with us

Honey’s last blog post..Social Artistry at Its Finest

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:02:38 +0000

You know what would turn it around? Go on vacation someplace awesome, like Costa Rica or anywhere in the Carribean. Get a travel buddy and just make a 4-day trip happen. It'll totally break you out of state and you'll meet a ton of cool new people (including dudes). Right now you're in a slump and you need to bust it. Also, cut the crap, you're awesome and you know it. The dudes you're interacting with just aren't cool enough to hang with you. I remember I was sucking ass over the summer, then I went to the Dominican Republic with some peeps, which was awesome, and it completely changed my outlook. That's what vacations are designed for. If you want to do a couple days in Florida at the beach, I'd be happy to show you around and party it up. Also, I've got some peeps planning a Vegas trip. Think about it. Lance’s last blog post..Social Artistry at Its Finest

By: S.

S. — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:37:06 +0000

And remember – you live in New York City! Home of intense loneliness and intense possibility. I’d invite you for coffee, you seem like a nice person, I feel like that might be really creepy.

By: Rachelle

Rachelle — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:28:39 +0000

You are not alone. You have all your loyal blog friends!

We all have good days and bad days, some more than others. But I get what you mean about not having that special someone.

Just know that I’m rooting for you, as are many others.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:07:35 +0000

Echoing the “hang in there”. And to quote the Beatles…”I get by with a little help from my friends”. No relationship, no problem. You seem to have a great group of friends, hang with them, and let life come as it may.

I know the “I have nobody” feeling as well. You are not the only person who gets into this funk sometimes. Join a sports league, actively plan “girls nights” with your friends. Hell, I joined a kickball team to get out of my funk and hang with my friends.

It will pass, and we will keep reading and sending good vibes your way.

By: The Virgin

The Virgin — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 07:17:11 +0000

I know how it is. But honestly, you write about what's on your mind, some time passes, and you feel all the better for it. I'm not going to give some useless phoney-baloney advice like "life is what you make of it" because life doesn't always go our way. (Cause if we could control it, I would be a millionaire, the emperor of the world and own a jewel-encrusted lazy boy chair.) But you can get out and do something you enjoy, and suddenly things aren't so bad in the long run. The Virgin’s last blog post..The five stages of job loss

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 06:31:52 +0000

Hang in there DD. I'm sure everyone goes through moments like this married or not. It won't last though - promise. ~ Tony Tony’s last blog post..Another one in the can...