Umm, yeah, so I emailed the five-year BF
I did it. You know how I am – I’m so impulsive when it comes to this sort of thing. I had my mind set on contacting him, so I just did it. I whipped up a quick email to him this morning and sent it off to his LinkedIn account, hoping for some kind of response, good, bad, or ugly. I’m not sure what to expect, if anything, but I’m glad I did it. At least I’ll know that I tried getting back in touch with him, and if he’s not interested, I’ll have my answer soon enough. The email was totally platonic and friendly (and short) – I basically just asked him how’s he’s been and said that it would be nice to get back in touch. Short and sweet. No response yet.
Scary situations that have been playing over and over in my head all day:
- His wife/fiance checks his email and finds my little message sitting there. Ouch.
- The five-year BF sees my message pop up and wonders why this crazy chick is contacting him after so many years. The message is promptly deleted.
- He sees the message, reads it, ponders it for a while, and then decides that he just doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore.
- He responds with a platonic/friendly message, and I find out a few emails/phone calls later that he’s married or something. This situation totally sucks, because I get my hopes up and then have them crushed – ouch.
Perhaps the scariest situation of all is the one I’m hoping for (against all logical reasoning and rational thought, of course) – that he would actually consider getting back together. Good thing the chance of this actually happening is essentially zero, because the thought of getting back together, although exciting, really scares the living shit out of me.
Ahhhhhhhhh.
Am I completely out of my mind or what?
I think past relationships belong in the past. There’s a reason why it ended. No, you’re not crazy, but why not just move forward? Why go back?
Buddha’s last blog post..Kristofferson
April 6th, 2009 at 1:20 amIt’s easy to contact an ex when you’re low, but doesn’t mean it’s necessarily the right thing to do sadly
April 6th, 2009 at 2:34 amInterestingly, my ex ex checked my profile out on match the other day so today I actually emailed her to see how she was doing. To be perfectly honest, I have no intention of getting together with her, she’s not quite hot enough to be my girlfriend anymore, although she’s looking really good. I just want to cultivate a friendship with her because we were just so intellectually compatible.
A perk of that is that I can maybe meet new girls through her and potentially use her as leverage with promoters to get into venues for free.
Hammer’s last blog post..Tailoring Your Game to Attract the Girls You Want
April 6th, 2009 at 1:38 pmJust remember, you broke up for a reason.
April 6th, 2009 at 6:52 pmBuddha – Why not move forward instead of moving back, you ask? Because it seems that all my various and sundry attempts to move forward land me right back where I started! Looking back, I was so happy… I guess I just really miss that feeling.
Tony – True, very true. I’m only human, after all.
Hammer – Hey, if that works for you, great! I think it would be really hard for me to meet other guys through my ex… it would just be weird, you know?
Mr NYC – I know, I know… and I still say that breaking up back then was the right thing to do for a bunch of reasons… but that doesn’t make me miss him any less.
April 6th, 2009 at 9:13 pmWell, now you will have your answer- good or bad.
I NEVER check my LinkedIn account so don’t be surprised if he doesn’t immediately get back to you. It’s not like it’s Facebook.
KT’s last blog post..First weekend in DC
April 6th, 2009 at 10:08 pmKT – Hahaha. Yeah, but doesn’t LinkedIn send an email to your regular email address letting you know you have a message? I get those emails, anyway…
P.S. – I am anti-Facebook!
April 7th, 2009 at 9:11 pm