Comments on: NMP says the STD “fucked me up”

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Sun, 31 May 2009 23:52:39 +0000

All – Thanks for your advice. I’m still debating the therapy issue, but leaning toward not doing it… at least for now. It’s expensive, and my budget is pretty tight (especially now that I’m spending an absolute fortune on groceries because all I eat is fresh produce and the lean/expensive cuts of meat). I’ll see how it goes…

By: OC

OC — Thu, 28 May 2009 23:02:36 +0000

I'm going to echo the above - if you think it will help, go see a therapist. If you think you're ok on your own, you are. The therapist is there to get you back on track mentally. It works for some people; it doesn't work for others. I've been to 3 different therapists at times in my life when I needed it. I knew I needed it, and that's why I went. Did it help? It didn't hurt, but maybe time would have done the same thing? I know NMP knows you well, and I know you haven't talked with him in awhile, and I know this sounds trite, but you have to do what's best for you. OC’s last blog post..Time Travel

By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 28 May 2009 18:53:05 +0000

I think Tom Cruise is far more fucked up than DD! Suspect very few women notice his emotional state though... Tony’s last blog post..Coming Alive

By: Claire

Claire — Thu, 28 May 2009 03:33:12 +0000

After an incredibly shitty 6 months, I saw a psychiatrist (at the insistance of my doctor mother) and ended up on anti-depressants…i honestly don’t think i’d be here today if I hadn’t. I always thought it was “fucked up” people who saw shrinks and took drugs, and therefore probably avoided getting help for way too long. I’m still nowhere near perfect/”normal” – whatever the fuck that is – but i can cope and i can function…mainly thanks to the anti-depressants.

If you think you need it, go for it, if you don’t, don’t…But you may find 6 months down the track you’re stuck in a hole you can’t get out of.

*fyi: i’m not looking to get into a Tom Cruise themed debate about the pros and cons of ADs. I think they’re a godsend, other people don’t…each to their own.

By: fionna

fionna — Thu, 28 May 2009 00:42:10 +0000

I agree with several posters…I don’t think you should be seeking therapy just because a non-professional thinks you should. If YOU want it, then go for it. And I think it’s perfectly normal that you’re not quite the same person as you were. You went through a fairly traumatic series of events, OF COURSE you’re different because of it. Frankly, it would be worrisome if you weren’t.

I, too, have had a year that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone and have had my fair share of recommendations for ways back to being “normal” from other people. Some suggestions I’ve taken literally, some suggestions I’ve seriously considered before deciding they weren’t quite right for me. Everyone reacts to things differently – it’s what makes us who we are – and sometimes we’ve just got to find our own way through things. And some of us take a longer time to get there than others. Who knows, maybe you’ll find therapy to be beneficial, and maybe you won’t. Point is, you have to do what feels right for you, and not what someone else thinks is right.

But that’s just my opinion

By: D

Wed, 27 May 2009 19:49:09 +0000

Go see a shrink. Even if you don't think you need it, you can learn a lot about yourself. I've been to several over the years and am seeing one now. They all had different strengths and have helped me in different ways. I didn't go for the the first time until I was about 27. I wish I had gone when I was in college. It was an old girlfriend (who I personally thought was a bit fucked up) who talked me into it. I started going again recently because I was messed after a relationship ended. You might want to start here.

By: Jonsi

Jonsi — Wed, 27 May 2009 16:49:58 +0000

Got to disagree with the Hammer on this. While I don’t think you need therapy — you don’t appear depressed, anxious, and you don’t exhibit a pattern of distorted and irrational thought patterns regarding your self or the negative events in your life — equating therapy to pussy shit is outrageous. It’s attitudes like that that often prevent people who truly need it from seeking medical help until they have developed full blown, debilitating disorders.

By: Simon

Simon — Wed, 27 May 2009 16:22:26 +0000

You know how I feel about nmp, d2. Ween yourself off of him. It's only hurting you and you know it! Simon’s last blog post..What Do You Want? By Simon

By: Hammer

Hammer — Wed, 27 May 2009 14:49:04 +0000

I am so not buying this. No pussy shit DD, NPS. Your commenters need to stop coddling you. Get a Tony Robbins box set or something and get your shit together. Shrinks aren't going to do anything for you, you need to put in the work on your own (this coming from the son of a psychoanalyst). Hammer’s last blog post..Song Lyric Escalation – “Tear You Apart”

By: The Virgin

The Virgin — Wed, 27 May 2009 09:16:40 +0000

I guess it depends on how long you've been like that. We all get into our funks, I was in one late last year following *my* incident and to be quite honest, the shrink didn't help very much. Fortunately I was able to accept certain facts about that, myself and come to a conclusion that made sense. Today I'm better and a little more carefree for it. Fortunately for you, it does seem like the clouds are breaking up and perhaps give you the brand new start you need. The Virgin’s last blog post..Sunshine, sand and SPF

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 27 May 2009 06:42:10 +0000

I agree that it's *your* decision and be careful of too much thinking / over analysis! If you're exactly the same person as a year ago; doesn't that mean you've wasted a year? Tony’s last blog post..Coming Alive

By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 27 May 2009 02:01:58 +0000

Well, I don't know if you're "fucked up" or not, but I do know that ever since you started up the blog again, your persona on here has changed DRAMATICALLY. Like, you're not nearly as introspective/thoughtful as before. I honestly believed for awhile that someone else had decided to write under your pseudonym for awhile because I simply could not believe it was the same person writing. Look back at your old stuff if you still have it and see what I mean. Honey’s last blog post..Vegas Memorial Weekend Sextacular: Preview

By: Gray

Gray — Wed, 27 May 2009 01:47:00 +0000

If YOU think you should talk to someone, then by all means go for it. Don't do it because someone else thinks you should. Though I wouldn't say you were "fucked up", again only you can decide that. Gray’s last blog post..Irish Voyeur