Comments on: NMP, where are you? http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/ Dating (mis)adventures of an unexpectedly sexy New Yorker Fri, 30 Jul 2010 03:34:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: The Dateable Dork http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1576 The Dateable Dork Sun, 10 May 2009 00:49:51 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1576 OC - Yeah, tell me about it! What's up with the flirting and the GF talk all in the same conversation? Geez. Good luck to you too. OC – Yeah, tell me about it! What’s up with the flirting and the GF talk all in the same conversation? Geez. Good luck to you too.

]]> By: OC http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1573 OC Sat, 09 May 2009 17:44:51 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1573 Ray (written about in-depth on my private blog) is my NMP. And it's an emotional roller coaster. From getting text messages from him (similar to your blow job conversations...) and him telling me how he still fantasizes about me to him telling me his girlfriend is now moving in with him... in the same conversation... Yeah. Good luck. I'm with you. <abbr><em>OC’s last blog post..<a href="http://livelaughhopelove.wordpress.com/2009/05/04/flags/" rel="nofollow">Flags</a></abbr></em> Ray (written about in-depth on my private blog) is my NMP. And it’s an emotional roller coaster. From getting text messages from him (similar to your blow job conversations…) and him telling me how he still fantasizes about me to him telling me his girlfriend is now moving in with him… in the same conversation…

Yeah. Good luck. I’m with you.

OC’s last blog post..Flags

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1564 The Dateable Dork Sat, 09 May 2009 01:54:03 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1564 Simon - Also, I'm not going to call him. If he calls me, fine, but I'm not going to intrude in his life because I really do feel guilty about the whole situation and I know he's happy with this girl. DrSmoothie - He is definitely not going to want a relatioship with me - he's the one who dumped me in the first place! But he's also the one who came crawling back for those BJs that he loves so much. I suppose it could hold me back from meeting someone else if I were talking to him on any kind of regular basis, but we only talk about once a month, and now it's been even loger than that. It's just an intermittent thing, but yeah, I really do enjoy the connection with him. Honey - Aww, how cute! I swear, you and the BF have some kind of amazingly cute cosmic aura or something. Simon – Also, I’m not going to call him. If he calls me, fine, but I’m not going to intrude in his life because I really do feel guilty about the whole situation and I know he’s happy with this girl.

DrSmoothie – He is definitely not going to want a relatioship with me – he’s the one who dumped me in the first place! But he’s also the one who came crawling back for those BJs that he loves so much. I suppose it could hold me back from meeting someone else if I were talking to him on any kind of regular basis, but we only talk about once a month, and now it’s been even loger than that. It’s just an intermittent thing, but yeah, I really do enjoy the connection with him.

Honey – Aww, how cute! I swear, you and the BF have some kind of amazingly cute cosmic aura or something.

]]> By: Honey http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1561 Honey Fri, 08 May 2009 22:26:46 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1561 Lance is my NMP, although I am the one in the happy relationship. No harm! Lance is my NMP, although I am the one in the happy relationship. No harm!

]]> By: DrSmoothie http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1559 DrSmoothie Fri, 08 May 2009 21:09:30 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1559 Oh please, he isn't married, so you aren't the other woman. You don't know the other girl and she is obviously is not giving this guy what he needs emotionally. It only sucks if he ever breaks up with her thinking he is going to get in a relationship with you, but that sounds doubtful based on you both seemingly know you aren't good in a relationship. It's only harmful in the sense that it could prevent you from moving on to someone who is available (the fact this guy is safe because he is unavailable could be part of why you are into him), but Simon's advice playing the role of the other girl is fitting because that advice is....beta. Oh please, he isn’t married, so you aren’t the other woman. You don’t know the other girl and she is obviously is not giving this guy what he needs emotionally. It only sucks if he ever breaks up with her thinking he is going to get in a relationship with you, but that sounds doubtful based on you both seemingly know you aren’t good in a relationship.

It’s only harmful in the sense that it could prevent you from moving on to someone who is available (the fact this guy is safe because he is unavailable could be part of why you are into him), but Simon’s advice playing the role of the other girl is fitting because that advice is….beta.

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1557 The Dateable Dork Fri, 08 May 2009 12:05:37 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1557 Simon - You're absolutely right, and I admit that I'm a horrible person for encouraging that sort of behavior. In fact, I wrote a few posts back in January about how I most definitely crossed the line and whether our phone conversations constituted cheating or not: http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/01/crossing-the-line/ http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/01/crossing-the-line-follow-up/ I concluded that they did, in fact, amount to emotional cheating, and then I felt like shit for a while. But for some reason I always find myself wanting to talk to him again, even though I know it's awful. I never said I was perfect. <abbr><em>The Dateable Dork’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/" rel="nofollow">NMP, where are you?</a></abbr></em> Simon – You’re absolutely right, and I admit that I’m a horrible person for encouraging that sort of behavior. In fact, I wrote a few posts back in January about how I most definitely crossed the line and whether our phone conversations constituted cheating or not:

http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/01/crossing-the-line/

http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/01/crossing-the-line-follow-up/

I concluded that they did, in fact, amount to emotional cheating, and then I felt like shit for a while. But for some reason I always find myself wanting to talk to him again, even though I know it’s awful. I never said I was perfect.

The Dateable Dork’s last blog post..NMP, where are you?

]]> By: Simon http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/05/nmp-where-are-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1556 Simon Fri, 08 May 2009 11:33:52 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=740#comment-1556 He is absolutely cheating on his girlfriend by staying emotionally connected to you. I tend to believe that situations like these are very black and white because of my own trust issues. Now, that being said, I have to take a hard line with you here, D2. As much as you miss him and you want him to call you and go down on you through the phone, you need to give it up! It's outright dangerous to have feelings like this for someone who is committed. I know exactly what it's like for his gf because I was once in that position. In a certain way I almost hope that she doesn't know that NMP is talking to you (ever) because then she wouldn't be jealous. On the other hand, it's only right for her to know. Please do everyone in this situation a favor and don't let him cheat on his girlfriend, even if it's not physically, it's just emotional cheating. It's a terrible feeling to get cheated on, but it's even worse to have it happening and never know about it. <abbr><em>Simon’s last blog post..<a href="http://simonandcole.com/2009/05/07/motivation-by-cole/" rel="nofollow">Motivation by Cole</a></abbr></em> He is absolutely cheating on his girlfriend by staying emotionally connected to you. I tend to believe that situations like these are very black and white because of my own trust issues. Now, that being said, I have to take a hard line with you here, D2. As much as you miss him and you want him to call you and go down on you through the phone, you need to give it up! It’s outright dangerous to have feelings like this for someone who is committed. I know exactly what it’s like for his gf because I was once in that position. In a certain way I almost hope that she doesn’t know that NMP is talking to you (ever) because then she wouldn’t be jealous. On the other hand, it’s only right for her to know. Please do everyone in this situation a favor and don’t let him cheat on his girlfriend, even if it’s not physically, it’s just emotional cheating. It’s a terrible feeling to get cheated on, but it’s even worse to have it happening and never know about it.

Simon’s last blog post..Motivation by Cole

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