http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo

Especially the part about brick walls, they are there for a reason!
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Hammer – This “talk” came directly out of my head – it’s just what I happen to be feeling lately. Very much a stream-of-consciousness from yesterday. And don’t worry, I’m definitely planning to do something about it. I’ve waited long enough, god damn it!

Virgin – Glad you can sympathize – if I recall correctly, we’re almost exactly the same age, right? I absolutely agree that I have complete freedom to do whatever I want at this point in my life – nothing is tying me down, no responsibilities to anyone but myself, etc. It’s a great, liberating feeling, but I also feel that I’m missing out on so much more… and I’d trade my freedom for a handful of those things on my wish list in a heartbeat.

Kitty – I’ve given some serious thought to moving on several occasions, and it’s still lingering in my mind as a possibility. The only problem is that I’m a city girl at heart, and most cities are expensive (albeit maybe not expensive as New York!).

Jaanus – Seems like I need to take your advice! Glad things worked out so well for you, and congrats on being brave and going for it. I need to use your story as inspiration for my own life. : )

Ozgirl – Yeah, it’s kind of an ominous realization, but sometimes things just don’t go as planned, no matter how hard you try. Such is life! I’ve gotta pick myself up and try again.

Honey – My goals are always changing, bit by bit, and the adoption thing is fairly new (within the last 6 months or so). But overall, I’ve had the same vision for my life for a while now, and I don’t seem to be getting any closer to the picutre in my head. As I mentioned to the Virgin above, I certainly value my freedom and relative lack of debt (with the exception of some student loans) right now, but I have this nagging feeling that making a commitment to someone (partner, child, cat, or all of the above) would be so much more rewarding than the knowledge that I can pick up and move, by myself. Know what I mean? It’s one thing to have freedom, but the loneliness is eating away at me… and who’s to say that I couldn’t move with my husband, kids, and Little Miss Fluffy? : )
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One question I might ask is how long your goals have been your goals…maybe they need some revisiting – a) to see if you still want the ones you have, and b) to see if there’s anything you want to add.

The reason I say this is that you list buying a home, having a child, adopting a cat, and being in a long-term relationship as your primary goals. I think that there is definitely satisfaction to be had there, but every one of those goals limits your options re: your ability to change your life. Especially the first three, which all involve incurring debt, which always limits your options. The last doesn’t involve debt, but it DOES involve compromise, which is sometimes good but always limiting.
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You know what is scary, Lilly Allen’s new song 22, totally resonates with me and it doesn’t paint a very good picture…

It is doable, and by far the hardest part is to make the decision, after that everything will work out one way or the other. It will work out better if you are more determined and active.

Good luck!
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a) NYC must be a great city to live in. You must love it. But it’s damn expensive. Start looking for a job in your field outside of NYC that is less expensive.
b) If you find a job you might like somewhere not as expensive, move. Tada. New place, new friends, new job, new life.

Drastic, but it might work.

We don’t always get what we want and positive thinking or fluffy profit books doesn’t always make it so. Why is it in life that that some positively talented people can’t score a job while some talentless knucklehead comes out ahead just because they know the right person?

But it is nice to know that we at least have the freedom to at least try for it and have a fair chance to make it happen. Point being: did you ever stop to think that perhaps it is YOU who has the advantage over your friends in that area? Think they can just change their career due to boredom? Go do some activity spontaneously? Nope, they have a responsibility to their family first and it’s going to be that way for a loooooooooooooooonng time.

You’re your own woman and even if things don’t always go your way, you have much more freedom to switch gears and do anything she damn well pleases at this stage of life, unlike others.

My biggest fear in life is waking up one day and feeling the need to write a post like this. Feeling like I’ve been grinding through and getting no where. Every week I meet a new person in his/her 30s or 40s who talks to me and tries to bring me down with his “reality” bullshit telling me that it’s cute how young and delusional I am. Saying things like, “when I was your age I used to think the same way, but then life happened.” There is nothing that disgusts me more than someone trying to crush my dreams because he didn’t have the drive to fulfill his own.

I don’t know who gave you this talk, but it’s totally bullshit. You’ve been in a rut, and I think it’s good that you’ve come to that realization, but you’re taking the wrong approach to getting out of it. Rather than making changes to your life that will put you back on the path to what you want, you are lowering your expectations of yourself to avoid disappointment. Take control and do something about it. Read my latest blog post, then read “The 4 Hour Work Week” and get off of your ass do something about it. There’s really no excuse for settling for mediocrity.
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As I’m a man, we always offer solutions: read “The Power of Now” from Eckhart Tolle – it will change the way you see your life!