A trio of shockers from Hot Marine
I’ve been studying, studying, studying and don’t have much time to write, but I just HAD to write a quick post after what transpired tonight. Unbelievable. This just goes to show that you never know where life is going to take you, and that anything is possible. It also goes to show that life isn’t always what it seems, no matter how sure of things you are.
Shocking thing #1: Hot Marine called me tonight. ON THE PHONE. Let me explain this so it is absolutely clear: My phone rang. I looked at the caller ID. It read: “Hot Marine.” I picked up the phone. Hot Marine’s voice was on the other end. As in, he picked up the phone and called me like a normal human being. I can count on one hand the number of times this has happened in the 2.5 years that I’ve known him. To top it off, we actually had a somewhat-normal conversation, as in an exchange of sentences and witty statements between two human beings. Whoa. Unbelievable.
Shocking thing #2: Hot Marine’s words: “I hate every single day of my life.” This humanizes him beyond belief. Apparently he’s being worked to death at his job and can’t seem to find a way out. Actually, I feel bad for him. He sounds completely downtrodden and miserable.
Shocking thing #3: Hot Marine’s words: “DD, you’re very special to me. I would do anything for you.” It took me a while to come up with any sort of response to this statement… and eventually I just said, “What does that mean??” To which he had no meaningful response, of course. We’ve been though this little dance before, but the shocker was the “I’d do anything for you” part. Never heard that come out of his mouth before. Again, whoa. I’ll never understand what goes on in that immensely interesting little brain of his.
And if those 3 items weren’t enough of a shocker for one night, get this: I refused to see him tomorrow night. Well what do you know… I shocked myself. : )
Oh, and apparently Hot Marine has “the perfect grad school plan” for me, which he refused to divulge over the phone, insisting that he wanted to “sit down and have a conversation” about it, after which I would “suck his cock.” Now that isn’t surprising at all. I guess some things never change. : )
Wow! Obviously this little dance with the Hot Marine has many repeat movements and some new ones coming along the way more exciting than the previous ones…But good for you that you refused to see him! Especially after the “I’d do anything for you”. You deserve a clear mind for studying and a man that is always available
September 24th, 2009 at 5:22 amMy read on the “I’d do anything for you” is that he is projecting happiness onto his time with you because he’s miserable elsewhere (not that you’re not awesome) and also he has to keep finding different ways to cry wolf.
If he IS that depressed, then that is all the more reason not to be involved with him in any way, IMO.
September 24th, 2009 at 11:52 amHoney´s last blog ..How’d You Get That Hickey, Eh?
You need to drop this guy. He’s full of it, he’s desperate and you can do a lot better. You’re not special to him. He doesn’t care about you.
September 24th, 2009 at 12:43 pmAgree with both commenters above. Yeah, just a different way to cry wolf and get some sympathy and lay. Good for you that you refused to see him. He may SAY he’d do anything for you, and that’s great to hear, but look for his ACTIONS. Actions speak louder than words. Has he actually done anything for you when you might have needed someone in your life when you’re feeling depressed or miserable? Where the F was he?! And boo-hoo, he hates every single day of his life? Well, that’s too bad, but you don’t need to be a shoulder for him to cry on; why should you when he hasn’t done anything for you (emotionally)? As for the perfect grad school plan? If he were really a caring friend, he’d just tell you asap over the phone instead of making it into a “if you lay me, then I’ll tell you” BS.
September 24th, 2009 at 1:15 pmAll very good points. My brain is in complete agreement. The heart is a different matter entirely… but I’m trying to let my brain remain in control right now. : )
Oh, and let me just say this: without getting into too much detail, Hot Marine has nothing to complain about, seriously. He’s a young, extremely fit, insantely attractive (IMHO) guy with excellent academic credentials and a ridiculously competitive and high-paying job. Boo-hoo is right. If you’re miserable, do something about it! He has virtually unlimited resources at his disposal. I feel bad that he’s unhappy, but it’s his own fault if he chooses to wallow in his misery.
September 24th, 2009 at 11:50 pmThe Dateable Dork´s last blog ..A trio of shockers from Hot Marine
So out of curiousity, are you going to still be involved with Hot Marine?
I mean, apparently despite his stress and unhappiness, he does have his good qualities.
But, there’s been a past with this guy. You know he’s toxic. But yet you still keep him around. Have you decided if he’s worthy of being kept around? If he isn’t, then you owe it to the guy to let him know and to move on, because he clearly likes you and maybe even loves you.
September 25th, 2009 at 12:47 pmhey, I have only your side of the story, but:
h.m. wants to do everything for you, which involves some decent blowjobs for him.
Sounds egoi.. eeer.. completely logical.
on the other hand: Let’s assume he reads your blog.
“ring dd -> go to bed with her”
Some lonely nights under the pale neon light of a random toilet cabin let the thought finally filter in.
The only thing I wonder about is how terribly long this took.
September 25th, 2009 at 1:37 pmMr_Right – Yes, I’m sure this isn’t the end of my interactions with Hot Marine. As long as I don’t have anything else going on in the dating world, he provides a much-needed distraction and occasional ego boost. However, let me clarify something here: Hot Marine has NO actual feelings for me (like, love, whatever), and I am 100% sure about this. There is no need to let him off the hook, because he was never on it in the first place. Our interactions are purely superficial/casual and will always be that way.
m – Huh? Not sure I get what you’re saying here. Yes, both he and I are perfectly aware of the fact that he can call me up for casual sex, and most of the time, he gets it. I openly admit this, accept it, and even enjoy it when he comes over. We’re both adults, and we both know what’s going on here. Any deeper feelings I have for him are completely inconsequential.
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