Comments on: A trio of shockers from Hot Marine http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/ Dating (mis)adventures of an unexpectedly sexy New Yorker Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:00:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: The Dateable Dork http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3835 The Dateable Dork Fri, 25 Sep 2009 21:32:40 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3835 Mr_Right - Yes, I'm sure this isn't the end of my interactions with Hot Marine. As long as I don't have anything else going on in the dating world, he provides a much-needed distraction and occasional ego boost. However, let me clarify something here: Hot Marine has NO actual feelings for me (like, love, whatever), and I am 100% sure about this. There is no need to let him off the hook, because he was never on it in the first place. Our interactions are purely superficial/casual and will always be that way. m - Huh? Not sure I get what you're saying here. Yes, both he and I are perfectly aware of the fact that he can call me up for casual sex, and most of the time, he gets it. I openly admit this, accept it, and even enjoy it when he comes over. We're both adults, and we both know what's going on here. Any deeper feelings I have for him are completely inconsequential. .-= The Dateable Dork´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/studying-is-good-for-the-soul/" rel="nofollow">Studying is good for the soul?</a> =-. Mr_Right – Yes, I’m sure this isn’t the end of my interactions with Hot Marine. As long as I don’t have anything else going on in the dating world, he provides a much-needed distraction and occasional ego boost. However, let me clarify something here: Hot Marine has NO actual feelings for me (like, love, whatever), and I am 100% sure about this. There is no need to let him off the hook, because he was never on it in the first place. Our interactions are purely superficial/casual and will always be that way.

m – Huh? Not sure I get what you’re saying here. Yes, both he and I are perfectly aware of the fact that he can call me up for casual sex, and most of the time, he gets it. I openly admit this, accept it, and even enjoy it when he comes over. We’re both adults, and we both know what’s going on here. Any deeper feelings I have for him are completely inconsequential.
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]]> By: m http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3828 m Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:37:19 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3828 hey, I have only your side of the story, but: h.m. wants to do everything for you, which involves some decent blowjobs for him. Sounds egoi.. eeer.. completely logical. on the other hand: Let's assume he reads your blog. "ring dd -> go to bed with her" Some lonely nights under the pale neon light of a random toilet cabin let the thought finally filter in. The only thing I wonder about is how terribly long this took. hey, I have only your side of the story, but:

h.m. wants to do everything for you, which involves some decent blowjobs for him.
Sounds egoi.. eeer.. completely logical.

on the other hand: Let’s assume he reads your blog.
“ring dd -> go to bed with her”
Some lonely nights under the pale neon light of a random toilet cabin let the thought finally filter in.

The only thing I wonder about is how terribly long this took.

]]> By: Mr_Right http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3826 Mr_Right Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:47:35 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3826 So out of curiousity, are you going to still be involved with Hot Marine? I mean, apparently despite his stress and unhappiness, he does have his good qualities. But, there's been a past with this guy. You know he's toxic. But yet you still keep him around. Have you decided if he's worthy of being kept around? If he isn't, then you owe it to the guy to let him know and to move on, because he clearly likes you and maybe even loves you. So out of curiousity, are you going to still be involved with Hot Marine?

I mean, apparently despite his stress and unhappiness, he does have his good qualities.

But, there’s been a past with this guy. You know he’s toxic. But yet you still keep him around. Have you decided if he’s worthy of being kept around? If he isn’t, then you owe it to the guy to let him know and to move on, because he clearly likes you and maybe even loves you.

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3809 The Dateable Dork Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:50:31 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3809 All very good points. My brain is in complete agreement. The heart is a different matter entirely... but I'm trying to let my brain remain in control right now. : ) Oh, and let me just say this: without getting into too much detail, Hot Marine has nothing to complain about, seriously. He's a young, extremely fit, insantely attractive (IMHO) guy with excellent academic credentials and a ridiculously competitive and high-paying job. Boo-hoo is right. If you're miserable, do something about it! He has virtually unlimited resources at his disposal. I feel bad that he's unhappy, but it's his own fault if he chooses to wallow in his misery. .-= The Dateable Dork´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/" rel="nofollow">A trio of shockers from Hot Marine</a> =-. All very good points. My brain is in complete agreement. The heart is a different matter entirely… but I’m trying to let my brain remain in control right now. : )

Oh, and let me just say this: without getting into too much detail, Hot Marine has nothing to complain about, seriously. He’s a young, extremely fit, insantely attractive (IMHO) guy with excellent academic credentials and a ridiculously competitive and high-paying job. Boo-hoo is right. If you’re miserable, do something about it! He has virtually unlimited resources at his disposal. I feel bad that he’s unhappy, but it’s his own fault if he chooses to wallow in his misery.
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]]> By: Nicole http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3797 Nicole Thu, 24 Sep 2009 17:15:34 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3797 Agree with both commenters above. Yeah, just a different way to cry wolf and get some sympathy and lay. Good for you that you refused to see him. He may SAY he'd do anything for you, and that's great to hear, but look for his ACTIONS. Actions speak louder than words. Has he actually done anything for you when you might have needed someone in your life when you're feeling depressed or miserable? Where the F was he?! And boo-hoo, he hates every single day of his life? Well, that's too bad, but you don't need to be a shoulder for him to cry on; why should you when he hasn't done anything for you (emotionally)? As for the perfect grad school plan? If he were really a caring friend, he'd just tell you asap over the phone instead of making it into a "if you lay me, then I'll tell you" BS. Agree with both commenters above. Yeah, just a different way to cry wolf and get some sympathy and lay. Good for you that you refused to see him. He may SAY he’d do anything for you, and that’s great to hear, but look for his ACTIONS. Actions speak louder than words. Has he actually done anything for you when you might have needed someone in your life when you’re feeling depressed or miserable? Where the F was he?! And boo-hoo, he hates every single day of his life? Well, that’s too bad, but you don’t need to be a shoulder for him to cry on; why should you when he hasn’t done anything for you (emotionally)? As for the perfect grad school plan? If he were really a caring friend, he’d just tell you asap over the phone instead of making it into a “if you lay me, then I’ll tell you” BS.

]]> By: Not so Hot Marine http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3796 Not so Hot Marine Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:43:41 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3796 You need to drop this guy. He's full of it, he's desperate and you can do a lot better. You're not special to him. He doesn't care about you. You need to drop this guy. He’s full of it, he’s desperate and you can do a lot better. You’re not special to him. He doesn’t care about you.

]]> By: Honey http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3793 Honey Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:52:28 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3793 My read on the "I'd do anything for you" is that he is projecting happiness onto his time with you because he's miserable elsewhere (not that you're not awesome) and also he has to keep finding different ways to cry wolf. If he IS that depressed, then that is all the more reason not to be involved with him in any way, IMO. .-= Honey´s last blog ..<a href="http://honeyandlance.com/howd-you-get-that-hickey-eh" rel="nofollow">How’d You Get That Hickey, Eh?</a> =-. My read on the “I’d do anything for you” is that he is projecting happiness onto his time with you because he’s miserable elsewhere (not that you’re not awesome) and also he has to keep finding different ways to cry wolf.

If he IS that depressed, then that is all the more reason not to be involved with him in any way, IMO.
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]]> By: LostforWords http://www.thedateabledork.com/2009/09/a-trio-of-shockers-from-hot-marine/comment-page-1/#comment-3777 LostforWords Thu, 24 Sep 2009 09:22:27 +0000 http://www.thedateabledork.com/?p=1197#comment-3777 Wow! Obviously this little dance with the Hot Marine has many repeat movements and some new ones coming along the way more exciting than the previous ones...But good for you that you refused to see him! Especially after the "I'd do anything for you". You deserve a clear mind for studying and a man that is always available :) Wow! Obviously this little dance with the Hot Marine has many repeat movements and some new ones coming along the way more exciting than the previous ones…But good for you that you refused to see him! Especially after the “I’d do anything for you”. You deserve a clear mind for studying and a man that is always available :)

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