Comments on: Focusing inward

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 03:36:35 +0000

Anon – Exactly – the person I thought I knew was a complete illusion. How scary is that??? I don’t know much about narcissistic personality disorder, but that certainly sounds like something a manipulative egomaniac like David could have. Geez, what a psycho that guy is.

Erica – Ouch! Wow, that’s absolutely awful, and I’m so sorry to hear that that happened to you. What a fucking jerk!!! Excellent use of the term “dickhead” – I’ll have to adopt that one. : )
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By: Erica

Erica — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:07:42 +0000

I was in a “relationship” with a man for 2 years until I found out that he was married with 2 children and also had another “girlfriend”. Boy was I dumb.

The fact is, these men are sociopaths and don’t see themselves as doing anything wrong. Another term for this is dickhead. Do what you have to do to get through it – you’ll come out alive.
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By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:14:56 +0000

Three words: Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Read up on it and see if David fits the description. I’m betting he does. I had a similar experience. What makes it so hard is that you cared about someone who didn’t really exist. He made you feel wonderful (sometimes) but now you have to come to terms with the fact that the person who made you feel that way was an illusion. It sucks. I know. Good luck.

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:02:53 +0000

Girlwithnoname – Perhaps, but I need to deal with my emotions as they come. This was a tough one for me.

Not Hot Marine – I agree with everything you said, and I knew all those things all along. However, it was a different story when I thought he was single. Living with his girlfriend changes everything, and (a) I hate that was a part of that, and (b) I hate that the person I thought I knew turned out to be so much worse than I thought he was.

Honey – Hopefully I’ll move past it soon enough, but I do want to give myself some time to deal with the blow to my system.

Lance – Thanks, same to you.

Mr_Right – There is definitely a chemical component to it… I always get that crazy adrenaline rush when he gets in touch with me. I’ll need to go through withdrawal now, which will be fine because I’ve done it with him several times before.

Vince – Sorry to hear this has happened to you too. If you survived, hopefully I will too. : )
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By: Vince

Vince — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:48:22 +0000

DD,

It is a tough one and I am sure many have found themelves in similar situations, including me many years ago. It’s tough now, but you are a smart lady and in time you will separate yourself from things that cause you undue stress. I know it doesn’t help you now, but it does get a little easier every day.

Hang in there!

By: Mr_Right

Mr_Right — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:40:42 +0000

It’s all chemical. All that oxytocin and dopamine and all that good feeling chemicals are released when you’re around him, making you think, “Damn, he’s sexy.”

Plus, they ingrain themselves in your brain in the same areas as OCD, thus making you think of him constantly.

Heck, I know how it is. I think of my fiance constantly. Like all the time.

So you need to fight the chemistry. :p

But seriously, I’m agreeing with the recommendation in a previous comment to block this guy from email, phone, delete him from your phone, and I would add to go out there and meet some new guy who is less toxic. Create some new neural pathways for yourself.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:30:49 +0000

Sending good vibes your way.
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By: Honey

Honey — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:06:17 +0000

You should stop punishing yourself and start taking action, I think – actions like blocking his e-mail and phone number…
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By: Not Hot Marine

Not Hot Marine — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:43:09 +0000

You meant nothing to this guy. He never liked you. He’s been using you for years now and you’ve allowed it. He’s a monster? He’s a spolied baby. DD, I’m so unhappy. DD, I’m so lonely. DD help me. You mourn him? He never liked you. He’s a user and he used you. You’re over it.

By: Girlwithnoname (Jackie)

Girlwithnoname (Jackie) — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 06:15:31 +0000

I’d like you to email me. You’re making way too much out of this and I’d like to share my insights.

’nuff said.

GWNN
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