Respect
There have been some fairly heated comments on this blog lately, and I’m taking this opportunity to remind everyone that this blog should be a place of mutual respect. I respect your right to say whatever you’d like about me, but since we’re all adults here, I expect that all comments will be made with respect – for me and for all of the readers/commenters on this site. While the vast majority of comments have been highly respectful, there have been some that have crossed the line. We all know the difference between respectfully-delivered criticism and mean-spirited derision, and I ask that you restrict your comments to the former.Â
Please mind your manners, my dears. While the purpose of this blog is informal entertainment, please remember that there’s a real human being behind the scenes. I respect you as human beings entitled to your opinions, and I expect the same in return.
~DD
Come now…what do you expect the self-righteous keyboard jockeys do with their nights (and the rest of their young twenties) if you don’t give them that?
November 10th, 2009 at 2:24 amDD-
Some of the posts were somewhat harsh, but c’mon. Two of your longest posts with the most comments are about guys you WON’T date. And while you have a very comprehensive list of reason why you won’t date certain men, never on that list do you say, “I won’t date a guy who treats me like garbage.”
What you’re hearing isn’t really the sound of jeers, but more a collective palm slap to the forehead.
We love ya and we’re rooting for you in your career, your studies, your personal life and your love life. But we get worried about you when we see you making mistakes like hanging out with men that don’t treat you like the smart, confident woman you are.
November 10th, 2009 at 3:48 amOK, I am going to jump in here and point out that while yes, DD’s list of “dos and don’ts” with respect to dating does not include “don’t treat me like crap” I am going to go out on a limb here and say that she is starting at that point. “The List” is her extras, what she’d like this gentleman of good behavior to have IN ADDITION to good behavior.
What say you DD? As a fellow geek who believes all processes start with some valid assumptions, is “don’t treat me like crap” one of the unspoken assumptions you had before you wrote “The List”
November 10th, 2009 at 10:38 amI want to echo what Jonsi said on the previous entry – I agree completely that if what will make you happy is (among other things) an advanced degree from a well-known institution, that’s not too much to ask. Jake and I both have terminal degrees in our respective fields, and I know that’s what it takes to make me happy.
I also agree that once you get to grad school, you will realize how truly mediocre most (not all) of your past beaux have been, and will start to demand more of people. You deserve it!
And I still think you should get a new cell when you move and delete the number of any guy you’ve slept with
November 10th, 2009 at 11:11 amHoney´s last blog ..A Typical Date With Lance and Why Intimacy Matters on First Dates
I went back and reread some of the comments on the “bachelors beware” entry and wanted to disagree with Alexander on one thing – I think humility is one of the LEAST attractive traits a person can have.
I thought it was especially interesting because he says that one of the worst traits a person can have is lying, and whenever someone says anything humble, the first thing I think is, “LIAR.” Being humble is NEVER genuine.
November 10th, 2009 at 11:19 amHoney´s last blog ..A Typical Date With Lance and Why Intimacy Matters on First Dates
DD, I don’t mean any disrepect. Sorry if I came across as such. I find your blog wildly entertaining and I hope you do keep it up.
You said, “I figured that NYL and I were both adult enough to have dinner (*just* dinner), catch up, and enjoy each other’s company.”
This is the guy who very likely gave you an STD, very likley lied about it, lied and said he’d get tested again in your most recent encounter, never contacted you again, and you wrote him off w/ a brief email. It’s weird to contact him out of the blue and have “just dinner” as “just adults” and “enjoy each other’s company.” What company is there to enjoy?
Once you start acting like a confident girl, you can attract much higher-quality men!
November 10th, 2009 at 3:56 pmOh boy.
Of course I don’t want a “low-quality,” “mediocre” guy who “treats me like garbage.” Geez, who does?
My much-contested “list of dating requirements” is a list of absolute basics that I look for *in addition* to a bunch of other things that are obviously not on that list. For example, I don’t want to date a serial killer. Do I really need to put that on the list??? There are certain inherent assumptions built into it, and — this is important — that list does *not* define the entirety of my dating life, screening process, or general attitude toward men. It’s just a bunch of variables.
I really had no idea this would turn into such a big deal! Who knew the topic of college degrees would turn into such a touchy subject???
*bangs head against desk*
November 10th, 2009 at 11:43 pmThe Dateable Dork´s last blog ..Respect