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I finally responded to the five-year BF

16 Feb 2010

Remember a few weeks ago when I got a completely random and heart-stopping email from the five-year BF?  Well, I’ve been letting it fester in my inbox for a few weeks while I pondered the situation.  First I had to get over the shock of receiving such an email in the first place, then I needed to completely wipe it out of  my head for a few days to clear my mind and settle down, and then I really got to thinking about how I wanted to handle the situation, if at all.  For a while I thought that I wouldn’t respond and instead just leave the past in the past, avoiding the whole dredging-up-of-old-feelings that was bound to happen if we got back in touch, especially now that he’s getting married.  But then I started thinking about how much I cared for and respected him, and I just couldn’t NOT respond to his perfectly pleasant note.  So, tonight I emailed him back.  Gulp.

I made it very short and sweet – just a sentence or two.  I said that I heard that he was getting married, offered him my congratulations, told him I was going back to school, and said that I hoped he and his family are all doing well.  That’s it.  I feel so much better after hitting send on that email, not so much because of anything to do with his message in particular, but more because it gives me some closure on this issue that has been slowing eating away at me for the last few weeks.  I hate having the ball in my court, so I bounced it right back over to him.  Phew. 

Who knows what, if anything, will happen from here, but it is what it is.  Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, you know?  This one just happened to knock me on my ass, big time.

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2 Responses to “I finally responded to the five-year BF”

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    Shannon Says:

    Even if you can’t go back in time and change things, sometimes closure is necessary to move forward. Lacking finality is one of the most torturous burdens one can carry.

    February 16th, 2010 at 11:07 pm
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    The Dateable Dork Says:

    Very well said. For me, closure is what allows me to move on, to just let it go and put it in the past. But we’ll see what happens here. I have a feeling that this isn’t the last chapter in this story…
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    February 17th, 2010 at 11:43 pm

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